So this is Christmas… Sometimes it’s Hard.
The grief that comes in waves… If I take a moment, I can still feel her hand in mine as I sat on a cold pew as she grieved the death of her 92 year old mother. I am not certain of my age but I must have been around 30 at the time. Carey Beaube was a loving daughter to her sometimes cranky but incredible mother Idelle Gilliam. She and her sister Gloria embodied what I will always think of as “the way you honor your elders”. If you haven’t experienced loss or been around those who have experienced loss, it’s easy to adopt an attitude of “well she lived to 92” without acknowledging the great loss the living will feel…. Even if they try to comfort themselves with platitudes. The fact is few people are ever ready to live on this planet with the knowledge that their loved one is no longer physically here with them. And the grief comes in waves. We lost Carey to the other side of the Veil in June 2008. We lost my mom in January 2016. Alex and I are “motherless” and it feels a ...